The grey rock method may be enough to deter some narcissists, but it is not safe for every victim of abuse. — Narcissists are individuals who crave the admiration of others. They strive for attention and cannot endure criticism or any type of disappointment. Narcissists are a False Self. They wear a mask and will do whatever it takes to keep that mask in place. This includes controlling and abusing others.

A breadcrumbers tactics are much more damaging than you might think. — I have a very close girlfriend that has wasted five years of her life on a man that consistently bread crumbs her. She very much wants to get married and start a family, however, she is in real danger of wasting all of her fertile baby-making years on this narcissistic…

Ms. Bredehoft's media tour immediately after losing the defamation trial, was incredibly distasteful and quite cringe. Why did she do it? — Elaine Bredehoft was the lead attorney for Amber Heard in the Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard defamation trial. Ms. Bredehoft has been consistently recognized in publications as one of the Top Lawyers in Virginia, Washington, D.C. & Baltimore and is frequently ranked as one of the top ten lawyers, as…

I’m not a “super fan” and I won’t support an abuser simply because we share a gender. — I was reading yet another article here on Medium where a female author was defending Amber Heard and claiming she was the true victim! It still astounds me that there are so many individuals that blindly support an abuser simply because the abuser is a woman. The wild part of…

Narcissists cannot cope with unmet needs and will become hysterical, volatile, or rageful towards themselves or others. — When a narcissist is unable to have something they want they will become unhinged because of it. If you are familiar with the horrors of living with a narcissist you will understand this phenomenon very well. Narcissists look down on other people to maintain the positive image they hold about…

“Over the years I have felt the truest, purest love — the love of God, really, I imagine that’s what God’s love feels like — is the love that comes from your dog.” ~ Oprah Winfrey — Oprah Winfrey really just said it best. The love I feel from my dog could only be compared to the purest form of adulation and devotion, which some call God. I have had many dogs throughout my life, but none have so captured my heart like this beautiful and feisty…

We are socialized to breed attachment due to old trauma and codependency. — We all were conditioned, from a very young age, with many different beliefs about love that are actually quite toxic. For some of us, it is religious and cultural but for all of us, it is the media that has brainwashed us with unhealthy ideas about what love is. We…

One moment in Amber's testimony revealed just how clueless she is about the trauma a true DV survivor experiences’. — Mirroring, or reflecting back on what others say, is a common way that healthy people create rapport and show feelings of connectedness with others. We may, for example, adopt another person’s facial expressions, body language, and tone to show understanding and empathy. Narcissists and others with a cluster b personality…

Many people cannot psychologically handle a female abuser so they seek ways to rationalize her behavior. — I swore I was not going to write about the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial. Despite the fact that I meticulously and obsessively listened to all the testimony and all the audio in this case, I still resisted writing about it. I’ve read some articles here on Medium where…