Breadcrumbing is Emotional Abuse

A breadcrumbers tactics are much more damaging than you might think.

Candace Ranee
5 min readMar 26, 2022
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I have a very close girlfriend that has wasted five years of her life on a man that consistently bread crumbs her. She very much wants to get married and start a family, however, she is in real danger of wasting all of her fertile baby-making years on this narcissistic douche canoe.

My friend's story is not as unusual as you may think. Narcissists will find all kinds of ways to keep supply in their life.

This man is my friend's boss and she first met him at her Airforce training graduation. She was young and not very experienced with men. He was older and very married but told her he was separated and his wife was a “pill popper” and a “cheater.”

Then big shocker he went back to his wife, broke her heart but wouldn’t let her go.

I remember trying not to roll my eyes when she told me “he really hates his wife but he is afraid of losing his son”

As a survivor and a trauma-informed coach, I know very well what is going on. She is merely repeating his smear on the mother of his child because she is deep in cognitive dissonance.

Right before covid, he tells my friend he's getting divorced and I wholeheartedly believe his wife…

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Candace Ranee

Candace studied Sociology at Bowling Green State University. She is a writer and a DV Survivor