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He Used House Cleaning to Abuse Me.
Cleaning was a traumatizing experience with my ex narcissistic sociopath. I was expected to keep the house tidy at all times and if I didn’t do something that met his “standards” I was punished. Yet he was an absolute slob who only bathed once every other week and left his dirty cereal bowls all over the house.
My abuser dubbed himself a person with OCD that had anxiety attacks if the house wasn’t clean. This was complete horseshit of course. Cleaning was just another tool he used to control me and break me down. If he truly had OCD he would also be obsessive about his own personal cleanliness, which he was not. Only mine.
Narcissists will use cleaning as a tool to abuse. Narcissistic mothers are particularly guilty of using rage cleaning to punish and torture their children. Cleaning is a way for the narcissist to feel superior as they scream at you that you are lazy and worthless.
But they are often gigantic hypocrites and posers.
If you have followed my story you know when I met my abuser he was a homeless addict. He had no problem hanging out for days in the filthy squalor of a crack house trading sex with male and female prostitutes for drugs.
His morals and his personal hygiene were problematic, to say the least.
