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How a Narcissist Hurts You The Most
The relationship with a narcissist is simply a fantasy they project onto their partner. It was never real.
If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist or grew up with a narcissistic parent, you know there are many multi-faceted ways a narcissist can hurt you. It may be difficult and sometimes impossible to pinpoint just one particular way they hurt you the most.
As I ebb and flow through my recovery from all of the abusive people in my life, I’ve been able to sum up the entire reason it is so utterly devastating to your whole being, to be in any type of relationship with a narcissist.
You Lose Your Sense of Self
Your body tells you it’s wrong, but:
“he’s my soulmate”
“he’ll change.”
“I just need to show him more love and compassion.”
But it’s never enough.
The narcissist is a black hole, an endless taker of your time, energy, resources, and love. You believe that love is the one currency that can never run out and you often place the needs of others before your own. With a narcissist, the more you give the more they take and the more they will demand.
