I Warned The New Supply

I know what many of you are thinking. Don’t waste your time warning the new supply. The narcissistic ex has already told her you’re bat shit crazy, so she already hates you even though you have never met. She is drinking the kool-aid and thinks he is the answer to all her prayers. She is going to be possessive of him due to all the intensive love- bombing, and she will assume you are trying to get him back. She is hunkered down and will not listen to a word out of your mouth.

All of this is absolutely true; yet I still warned her.

My abuser found his next supply almost two months after his final hoover on me, after I finally went almost no contact. I say almost because I had not yet figured out how to destroy his emails that came into my Gmail inbox. I blocked him but his messages would go straight to my spam folder and this was way too tempting for me to resist checking. Eventually I got serious and found an app called Block Sender that erased his email before it could hit my spam folder.

For a couple months in the early stages of going no contact, there were a few email exchanges with my abuser. I received a random email from him telling me he was closing on a house. I knew instantly it was a lie. This man was a crack addict that couldn’t keep a job, was never able to pay his bills and had a 400 credit score. I knew he was just trying to get a…