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Sex With the Narcissist. The Good the Bad and the Downright Horrible
So often I’ve heard survivors express how amazing sex was with the narcissist. If only they could have stayed in bed the entire relationship everything would have been perfect. It seems so ironic that a narcissist could be so giving in the bedroom yet so horribly selfish outside of it.
Narcissists often begin having sex earlier than the average person and have gone through many intimate partners long before you came along. This is simply because they are purely motivated by external gratification. Sex is a form of masturbation for them. Even if you enjoy it too don’t think when they are having sex with you that they care an ounce for your pleasure. As with all things in a narcissist's life, it is all about them.
How can it be so one-sided, you may say. It really is amazing!
You’ve been groomed by the narcissist to associate sex with love and validation. The rest of the relationship is completely devoid of authentic affection and approval, so you begin to crave the love and physical touch you need through sex.
The majority of the time in a relationship with a malignant narcissist or sociopath, sex is only fantastic during the love-bombing stage of the relationship. They appear to be the lover of your dreams but they are only pleasing you so you become…
