Why Narcissists Move The Goalpost
Narcissists love changing the criteria in order to ensure that they have reason to perpetually be dissatisfied with you.
Have you ever been in a relationship with a person that asked something of you and as soon as you fulfilled their need they turn around and find a reason to complain that you really didn’t do what they asked? This is called moving the goalpost and narcissists love to employ this gaslighting tactic.
According to Collins Dictionary,
If you accuse someone of moving the goalposts, you mean that they have changed the rules in a situation or an activity, in order to gain an advantage for themselves and to make things difficult for other people.
Narcissists love to reinforce feelings of worthlessness in their partners. It's a sick high for them. They shift and redefine expectations constantly so that you can never satisfy them and the narcissist can forever feel superior to you.
You remain in an endless cycle of failure and blame in the relationship. It is a lose-lose for you no matter what you do. The narcissist wants to see you constantly proving yourself to them so your strengths are never seen, but rather, your flaws are always front and center.
