Why The Narcissist Can’t Stand Your Happiness

If you have been abused by a narcissist you understand what it means to be afraid of your own happiness. That may sound peculiar or odd to some, I’m sure. Why would anyone be worried about smiling, laughing, getting excited, or feeling alive? The answer to that will take some explaining but it is the root of narcissistic abuse.

The narcissist does not feel recognized or loved unless they take it from you by force. They cannot fathom unconditional love. While a healthy person is motivated by mutual connection a narcissist is motivated by dominance over those they are close to. A narcissist wants you to care more about what they think about you rather than what you think about yourself. When you start believing this false version of reality you are then trapped in the narcissists game.

Something I have come to realize about narcissists is that they need us more than we need them.

To be a whole human being you must surrender to life. You must understand all humans have their own likes, dislikes, opinions, and feelings; many of which do not match up with yours. You know this to be true but you are not bothered by it. You realize everyone has a basic human right to exist.

Love and human connection are inherent to our survival as a species, yet we know instinctively we all must have our own…