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Why the Narcissist Needs to Blame You
You have probably read a lot about narcissistic abuse. You understand one of the core attributes of a narcissist is their refusal to take responsibility. Instead of owning their bad qualities they project them on to other people. There is no limit to what they will do to appear blameless in all situations.
Narcissists see all people in black and white. This includes themselves. They need to be seen as all good all the time or they will literally psychologically self-destruct. If they admit to being wrong, in their distorted minds, this means they are all bad. They have no ability to be objective with anything! This is why they wear a false mask and why they seek to destroy anyone that threatens that false mask. Their very survival depends on it.
According to Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, lawyer, therapist, Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, and author of 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life:
High conflict personality disordered people like narcissists, sociopaths and borderlines all tend to stay stuck in life because of their lack of self-reflection and lack of change, only those who have high-conflict personalities become preoccupied with a specific Target of Blame.
Eddy continues to explain exactly who a target of blame is for one of these cluster B…
