Why The Narcissist Wants to Erase Your Identity

If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist you are probably familiar with that confused foggy feeling that overtakes you when you are around them for any length of time. This feeling is a symptom of systematic gaslighting and thought control tactics. I remember constantly feeling muddled and disorganized around my abuser as I was never truly safe to be myself or permitted to question his endless rambling narratives.

The narcissist must be superior to you at all times, and they cannot tolerate it when you question the weird things they say and believe. If you have attributes they don’t have it threatens their false image of grandiosity. If you offer a valid rebuttal to the nonsense and lies spewing out of their mouths, they quickly and often abusively shut you down. They will pull out all the stops to keep themselves above you in all ways! Honesty, empathy, and reciprocity are absolutely foreign concepts to the narcissist.

For a narcissist to sustain their false sense of superiority they will go on a methodical campaign to erase your identity so you no longer trust your own thoughts and judgment.

Narcissists distort the truth through disinformation, oversimplifying, ridiculing and sowing doubt. Narcissists are master manipulators and can be incredibly skilled at using the classic elements of…