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You Can’t Catch a Narcissist Lying
The Narcissist doesn’t lie to you. They just live in a simulated reality.
I used to believe that I could spot a liar. I was naive and innocent but didn’t know it. I believed in the good in people. Realizing that I was not as adept at detecting liars as I thought was a very bitter pill to swallow. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life.
For 42 years I truly believed that all people are fundamentally good. Luke Bryant sings a popular country song about this.
When I was in college I wanted to become a social worker. I believed that every human on this planet deserved to be given a chance. I passionately spoke out about mental illness and incarceration rates and how “wrong” it was to put everyone in prison.
The desire to help and inspire others was just part of my nature.
When it came to dating, I always chose the broken. I dated alcoholics, lazy potheads with no ambition, people who had serious mental health conditions, and individuals that came from toxic homes. I wanted to love them into being healthy adults.
That never really worked out well but I still believed all people were good. I still believed I would “know” if I was being lied to because I was so intuned with my intuition.
