Your Fantasies Fuel Your Addiction to The Narcissist.

Candace Ranee
5 min readJan 10, 2022

Unmet childhood needs leave you vulnerable to the narcissist

At the beginning of the relationship, the narcissist is a dream-come-true. They are often intelligent, witty, charming, good-looking, empathetic, in need of love, sweet, caring, attentive, and much more.

They check off every one of your requirements for the perfect partner. You cannot believe your good fortune! You finally met your soulmate.

But it is all an illusion. You’re being conned and every one of your hopes and dreams is assisting the narcissist in their game.

All of your needs that were ignored during your childhood in adulthood have now evolved into your current fantasies. They are different for everyone. If you came from a broken home you dream of a close loving family of your own. If your father ignored you or was MIA you desperately long for male attention and acceptance.

The narcissist knows exactly how to exploit these childhood yearnings.

The narcissist is completely addicted to human attention. It is their dependence on the world around them that drives them to study people so intently. They are so adept in their predatory nature, they can figure out all of your strengths and weaknesses in one meeting.



Candace Ranee

Candace studied Sociology at Bowling Green State University. She is a writer and a DV Survivor