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Your Past Will Be Weaponized Against You.
Anything you say can and will be used against you by the Narcissist.
Everyone has a past and during a healthy dating situation, it’s normal to share these past experiences. A non toxic person genuinely wants to get to know you and all you’ve overcome on your journey.
Most of us seek to understand our partners on a deep level. We are interested in their thoughts, dreams, fears and vulnerabilities. This desire is rooted in a fundamental need for connection and closeness within relationships. Understanding one another also enhances trust and emotional security, creating the foundation for a healthy partnership.
A narcissist on the other hand, wants to learn everything about you for sinister purposes. It isn’t to bond over similar past stories and create connection. It is only to file away information to use as a weapon against you later.
A certain narcissist I was in a relationship with very much enjoyed constantly bringing up my past relationships.
In the beginning my guard was down one night and I told him a lot of deep traumas I had suffered during my abusive relationship with a diagnosed sociopath.
I believed this new man was trying to get to know the real me but that wasn’t the case. He was just another narcissist gathering as much “dirt” on me…
